Loving For The Wrong Reason

Sweet Bee's thought of the day: Loving For The Wrong Reason...

I have come to the realization that people love for the wrong reasons. A lot of people I've come across settle in life for what is convenient (what's in it for me?), rather than what we need/want in our life (to help them grow or be a better person).  Then we can't be faithful with the one we choose to settle with because we ourselves are lacking something or are just not satisfied. This could be because of something we lack within ourselves, but most of the time it's because we base love on the wrong intentions. We are with a person to warm our bed, the way they look, to get money out of them, make us feel secure, help us make money, build our empire, fill the gap in our life, etc., instead of for who they truly are and how they make us feel

We live in a world of instant gratification and vanity therefore we want things easy, fast and convenient and never take the time to learn our self or each other. Unfortunately that is not the way to build a foundation that will really last. Nor is it building a foundation that is true to our heart. I believe love is something that can be felt instantly but true love stands the test of time. It takes work to allow a person to love us for who we really are and it takes patience to love them for who they truly are.

I also believe true love requires us to show our true self, no matter how ugly we may think we are on the inside.  We all send our representative when we are trying to impress others. This goes for business, relationships, friendships etc. Most of us lack the confidence in ourselves to allow others to see who we really are. We hide behind our walls, jobs, money, past accomplishments and success, people we know/knew and what others have said we are. Sadly, that is not who we are. They are entities that create the person we have become but it is not who we are.

In order to love someone we truly need to know and love our self. That means also our weaknesses and downfalls because they too helped to mold who we have turn out to be. Everything done in darkness will come to light, therefore it is better to shed light on our own darkness instead of covering it up and/or running from it. The interesting thing is that when we do it, we are respected more because we are truthful and most likely learned from it. When we expose ourselves, our stories help others too. This is part of the work involved in loving others. It is a true sign of growth and maturity. When we are able to be truly confident in who we are (good, bad and ugly) we will see how easy it is for us to find love and be truly loved. Then everything else we are hoping for will fall into place.

I close with these verses:

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. ~1 John 4:18

Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. ~Romans 12:9-10